There was a time I believed leadership had a uniform.

Sharp blazers.
Sharper emails.
Quick thinking.
Clear logic.
Minimal emotions, please.

I watched the room and learned quickly: the leaders who were praised the most talked the most. They had answers. They had frameworks. They had strategy decks.

So I taught myself to show up like that, too.
And I was good at it. Almost convincing.

But beneath the polished surface, I was slowly cutting off something essential—my ability to feel. To intuit. To sense before speaking. To know what wasn’t being said.

What I now know as my feminine energy.

And let me tell you something:
It didn’t disappear.
It just got quieter. Until one day, it didn’t.

Masculine energy makes noise. Feminine energy hears the silence.

Let’s get one thing straight: this isn’t about gender.
It’s about energy, and every single one of us has both.

Masculine energy is incredible.
It’s what helps you take the idea and turn it into a product launch.
It sets deadlines, gives structure, holds the meeting, and makes the decision.
It’s bold. Directed. Driven.

But too much of it?
You become a machine.
You prioritize logic over people.
You stop listening because everything becomes a box to tick.

You forget the heartbeat.

And feminine energy? She’s different.

She feels what’s off before anyone names it.
She leads through presence, not pressure.
She senses energy shifts and team dynamics like an orchestra conductor tuning the room.

When I finally stopped apologizing for my intuition and started leading with it—I became magnetic.
Not perfect. Not always popular.
But deeply, clearly me.

But let’s not romanticize either.

Too much masculinity, and you bulldoze.
Everything is urgent. Emotional intelligence? Optional.
You start believing that productivity equals worth.
And kindness? Cute, but not critical.

Too much femininity, and you dissolve.
If you’re an empath and don’t know how to protect your energy, you become a sponge.
You carry your team’s emotions like a designer tote stuffed with bricks.
You avoid hard conversations because you don’t want to hurt feelings, but end up hurting the team in the long run.

Feminine leadership isn’t about being nice.
It’s about being crystal clear with kindness.
Soft tone, strong spine.

Integration is the new power suit.

The best leaders I know don’t live in extremes.

They ask the sharp questions and read the room.
They bring the data and trust their gut.
They hold people accountable and hold space.

They’re not trying to be the loudest.
They’re trying to be the most attuned.

And honestly? That’s the kind of leadership people remember.
The kind that leaves a mark not just on the outcome, but on the experience.

My story isn’t unique. But it is mine.

I had to unlearn the belief that only one kind of energy was “strong enough” for leadership.
And I had to remember that my quiet, intuitive, emotionally intelligent nature wasn’t a detour.
It was the path.

So if you’ve ever been told you’re too sensitive, too soft, too emotional to lead—here’s a reframe:
You’re just too alive to lead like a robot.
And that’s not weakness. That’s evolution.

Takeaway?
Let your masculine energy make the plan.
Let your feminine energy feel the pulse.
And lead like the whole damn masterpiece you are.